Marriage is Hard

My husband recently called me irritating. Which is ironic because that is the exact word I was thinking fit him! We said more than that, but in the end we made the decision to sincerely hug in front of our children. The argument was actually over something insignificant, but we were both mad. Yeah, marriage is hard. But it’s oh so good when it’s working. Man and woman were definitely created to be different. But we are meant to complement each other. You know, the most amazing love stories always involve a struggle. Pride must be defeated before that perfect love can be discovered.

Who will drop their pride first is the question. Men need to be respected as the leader of the marriage. A lot of women have serious problems with this. Again, it requires eliminating pride to respect our husbands God ordained position. He is not better than you, he just has a different role than you. I know it’s hard. Men don’t always live up to this role well. Then there is a women’s desire to be loved and treasured. Yes, even the women in today’s culture who wear a tough exterior need to know this. A man’s pride may say, “She doesn’t deserve to be put on a pedestal.” However, every “I do” or “I will” when we wed was directly related to these times. We were saying we will honor our spouse. We will fight for our marriage. We will defend it. We will rescue it if needed. We will not give up on it.

A husband and wife can get through anything if they keep God first. Always moving toward God means always moving in the same direction and therefore closer together.